A Birthday, A Secret, and A Favor

by Ben Holt on June 25, 2012

Today is my birthday.

I’m 30 and, while I don’t feel old (because I’m not) or any of that kind of garbage, 30 is a landmark year for a lot of people in our culture.

Really, 30 is meaningless. No more significant than 29 or 31, but we have this love affair with round and even numbers that it takes on meaning if we let it.

Which I don’t.


Now is as good a time for a fresh start as any other.

Not because I’m 30, but because TODAY is as good a time as any other for a fresh start.

A (Very) Quick Look Back

My first 30 years were spent developing an ambition to do great and cool things, build wealth and independence, learn interesting skills, and meet terrific people.

That’s great, but I also spent much of those 30 years developing habits that would make it nearly impossible to do any of those things:

  • I learned to avoid responsibility, to shy away from risk.
  • I learned to quit when the going got tedious, rather than push through for the reward at the end.
  • I learned to trivialize the benefits I could attain by pushing through. I made it “no big deal” that I didn’t get the prize.
  • I learned to trivialize the bad consequences of my habits, which let me justify my behavior. So what if I could barely pay my bills? No. Big. DEAL.
  • I took for granted my fast metabolism, eating whatever I wanted with little consequence in terms of weight.
  • I learned to rely on my intellect in combination with last-minute pressures to get things done after I put them off for weeks or months.
  • I learned to dream and talk instead of act.
  • I learned to rely on others to get me out of my own stupid situations.

All of that’s pretty depressing if I let myself dwell on it. Why don’t I?

Well, there’s something else I learned:

Our Past Does Not Determine Your Future. What We Do Right Now Determines Our Future.

I’m not writing this post right now to say, “Hey, I’m 30, now I can start to be amazing!”

I’m writing it now because my 30th birthday just happens to coincide with some significant breakthroughs in my life. These breakthroughs have been over 5, maybe 10 years, in the making, but it’s all come to a head just recently.

Things clicked:

My mindset is right.

My habits are good and getting better every day.

My purpose is defined and clear.

My methods work and they’re improving.

I’ve broken the code.

I’ve deciphered the secret to getting what we want out of life. But I’m not going to let it out quite yet.

I’m saving it all for a big surprise I’m preparing – a late birthday gift from me to you!

I’ll give you a hint, though: I’m not the only one to realize and apply it. You can find people in history or your home town who live in a way that virtually sets them up for success in whatever they put their minds to.

You can find everything you need to know about it online or in a library (remember those?). You can learn the practical side of it without any fancy equipment or expensive coaching. It’s been in front of us the whole time.

We just don’t do anything with it!

I aim to change that. For me, for you.

I want to do this because I know there are people – very good and capable people – who are frustrated by fears and hobbled by poor habits. I know that what I have to share will help them break the cycle and move forward to phenomenal growth and fulfillment.

I’d like to reach 80 more people this month. Not 10,000 or 1,000 – just 80.

With that in mind, will you do just one thing for me?

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